I admit it. I teared up at the end of the movie Draft day? Why? I’m a sports addict so of course I’m a sucker for the subject matter of the movie, but I don’t think that’s what moved me. The movie revolves around the fictional general manager of the Cleveland Browns (Sonny Weaver) deciding what to do with the #1 pick in the 2014 draft. In the tension-filled climactic scene, Sonny shrewdly and deftly negotiates a complicated series of trades that land his team the players they want and a number of future #1 draft picks. Nice Hollywood scene.
But I think what stirred deep emotion in me goes beyond the protagonist winning against all odds. Weaver is clearly a less-than-comic-book-hero character– a flawed, real kind of character with a couple of virtues that win the day in the end: conviction and courage. He has a kind of calm conviction about who he is, what he believes and what he is about, and with those things in place he faces controversy and criticism (even from the man who could fire him on the spot) and presses forward with steady courage toward what he wants to accomplish. In the Hollywood version, this kind of conviction and courage is rewarded with timely success. In real life, the outcomes are not so predictable.
As I work with professionals to deepen their personal relationships, concepts like this are in the forefront of my mind. Unless an individual clearly knows who he is and what he believes, or is at least in an intentional process of clarifying those things, and wants to find the courage to live out who he really is, it is impossible to offer who he deeply is in a relationship.